Second-half Communication Skills

I know a person who is always right. At least, that's what they believe, it's how they act. Don't get me wrong, this is a good person, someone who is interesting and engaged in life. But, if you ever try to tell them they're wrong (which I haven't) well then…you'd be wrong.

The problem with this kind of behaviour is that it is tiring to be with (so it affects relationships) and it doesn't reveal options and possibilities let alone truth, if there is any to be had (so it keeps people ignorant or in the dark).

What's even worse is when the person doesn't even know they're doing it. But then that's true of all of us and our blind spots, isn't it.

At this stage of life - my mid-60s - I'm not that interested in impressing anyone anymore. I don't feel the need to.

I'm happier to be less certain, possibly incorrect because in many cases, it doesn't matter in the end.

And I'm happier to just be quieter and live and let live.

If this feels like you, try this approach in conversations this week: If someone says something you think is incorrect or you have a different opinion on, don't try to correct them (even if you know for sure they're wrong!).

Instead, try to understand their perspective. Ask them some questions to find out more. And once you feel like you see why they say what they do, still don't correct them.

Just let them be.

Aim for connection more than correctness.

It feels better for both of you.